The group impulsively decides to visit Lyme, a seaside town seventeen miles away, where Wentworth's friend Captain Harville is recovering from war wounds. Louisa, emboldened by Wentworth's praise of her firmness, insists on going despite her parents' preference to wait until summer. "I have no idea of being so easily persuaded," she declares, and bears down all opposition. They'll stay overnight, Charles, Mary, Anne, Henrietta, Louisa, and Captain Wentworth traveling together in late November to a place none of them except Wentworth has ever seen. At Lyme, they meet Captain Harville, warm, hospitable, disabled from war, and Captain Benwick, a young officer mourning his dead fiancée. Benwick's story mirrors Anne's heartbreak: he was engaged to Harville's sister Fanny, they waited for fortune and promotion, and when both finally came, she died. He's devastated, living with the Harvilles, reading poetry about hopeless agony and broken hearts. Anne, seated next to him at dinner, gently counsels him against dwelling exclusively on romantic poetry. She recommends prose, moralists, memoirs, letters, things to "rouse and fortify the mind." He listens gratefully, takes notes, promises to read what she suggests. But later Anne recognizes the bitter irony: she came to Lyme to preach patience and resignation to a young man grieving a lost love, yet "like many other great moralists and preachers, she had been eloquent on a point in which her own conduct would ill bear examination." She's advising Benwick to move on when she hasn't moved on herself in eight years. She thinks: "He has not, perhaps, a more sorrowing heart than I have." But he will rally and be happy with another. He's younger, "younger in feeling, if not in fact; younger as a man." The implication is devastating: women don't get second chances the way men do. Anne visits the Harvilles' modest home, sees the domestic happiness created by people with genuine warmth, and thinks: "These would have been all my friends", if she'd married Wentworth. This is the life she sacrificed.
Coming Up in Chapter 12
Anne and Henrietta walk to the sea before breakfast while Louisa and Wentworth join them in Lyme's brisk air. A gentleman on the steps admires Anne's restored bloom and Wentworth notices. On the Cobb Louisa will insist on being jumped down the steep stairs again, and one half second's rashness will shatter the morning..