Chapter 46
The Art of Honest Feedback
1.I received the book of yours which you promised me. I opened it hastily with the idea of glancing over it at leisure; for I meant only to taste the volume. But by its own charm the book coaxed me into traversing it more at length. You may understand from this fact how eloquent it was; for it seemed to be written in the smooth style,[1] and yet did not resemble your handiwork or mine, but at first sight might have been ascribed to Titus Livius or to Epicurus. Moreover, I was so impressed and carried along by its…
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Critical Thinking Exercise
Practice Honest Feedback
Think of someone who recently shared something with you - a work project, personal goal, creative effort, or major decision. Write down what you actually said to them, then write what Seneca-style honest feedback would sound like. Focus on being specific about what's working and what could be stronger, without being cruel or discouraging.
Consider:
- •Start with genuine appreciation for what's working well
- •Be specific rather than vague in both praise and suggestions
- •Consider whether your feedback helps them grow or just makes them feel good
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when someone gave you honest feedback that stung at first but helped you improve. What made their approach effective? How did it change your relationship with that person?
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