Recognizing Abuse Patterns
Helen watches Huntingdon mock what he praised, drink what he promised to limit, and treat her seriousness as a spoilsport's hobby. She invents a better husband in the gaps. Self-deception is not stupidity. It is a skill the marriage trains.
Key Insight
Abuse does not require a stranger. It requires a story that keeps the charming version employed. If you are working harder to explain him than he is working to be decent, you are already on the payroll of the pattern.






