Chapter 95
Why Good Advice Isn't Enough
1.You keep asking me to explain without postponement[1] a topic which I once remarked should be put off until the proper time, and to inform you by letter whether this department of philosophy which the Greeks call paraenetic,[2] and we Romans call the “preceptorial,” is enough to give us perfect wisdom. Now I know that you will take it in good part if I refuse to do so. But I accept your request all the more willingly, and refuse to let the common saying lose its point: Don’t ask for what you’ll wish you hadn’t got. 2. For sometimes…
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Critical Thinking Exercise
Build Your Personal North Star
Think of three major areas where you make regular decisions: work, relationships, and money. For each area, write down one core principle that actually guides your choices (not what you think should guide them). Then test each principle: does it help you make consistent decisions, or do you find yourself making exceptions based on who's watching or what's convenient?
Consider:
- •Your real principles might be different from what you tell others or even tell yourself
- •Look for patterns in your actual decisions, not your stated beliefs
- •Notice when you make exceptions and ask why those situations felt different
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you followed a rule everyone expected you to follow, but it felt wrong or meaningless. What principle were you actually serving, and how might you handle a similar situation differently now?
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