Chapter 16
The Wedding That Wasn't
ALL SAINTS’ AND ALL SOULS’ On a week-day morning a small congregation, consisting mainly of women and girls, rose from its knees in the mouldy nave of a church called All Saints’, in the distant barrack-town before-mentioned, at the end of a service without a sermon. They were about to disperse, when a smart footstep, entering the porch and coming up the central passage, arrested their attention. The step echoed with a ring unusual in a church; it was the clink of spurs. Everybody looked. A young cavalry soldier in a red uniform, with the three chevrons of a sergeant…
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Critical Thinking Exercise
Track Your Embarrassment Response
Think of the last time you felt publicly embarrassed or criticized. Write down exactly what happened, how it made you feel, and most importantly—who did you interact with next? Did you take those feelings out on someone else, or did you handle them differently? Map the chain reaction from your embarrassment to your next conversation.
Consider:
- •Notice if you became harsher with people who had nothing to do with your embarrassment
- •Consider whether the person you might have snapped at was actually someone who cares about you
- •Think about what you could do differently next time to break this pattern
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when someone took their bad day out on you. How did it feel to be the target of someone else's displaced anger? What would you want them to understand about the impact of their behavior?
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