The Ritual of Engagement Visits — The Age of Innocence

Archer begins the formal engagement process by making the required social visits with May and their families. They visit the formidable Mrs. Manson Mingott, May's grandmother, who lives unconventionally on the ground floor of her mansion due to her immense size. Mrs. Mingott's unusual living arrangement, bedroom visible from sitting room, scandalized proper New York society but amuses Archer, who secretly imagines romantic scenes there despite her respectable life. The visit goes smoothly until Ellen Olenska arrives with Julius Beaufort, having met him while out shopping during the day, behavior considered inappropriate for a woman in her compromised position.

Mrs. Mingott welcomes them warmly, eager to gossip with Beaufort about society matters, while the engaged couple prepares to leave. Ellen congratulates Archer on his engagement with a knowing smile that reminds him of their childhood connection. In the carriage afterward, no one mentions Ellen directly, but Archer senses Mrs. Welland's disapproval of Ellen being seen publicly with Beaufort so soon after her arrival.

Despite his own worldly pretensions, Archer feels grateful to be marrying within his own social circle rather than dealing with the complexities of Ellen's European-influenced world. The chapter reveals how New York society maintains its rigid structure through prescribed rituals while individuals navigate their private desires and judgments beneath the surface of polite conformity.